Self Care


Dear Royal,

If you don’t love you who else will?  Love is not just an emotion, it is a verb. You have to love you enough to do right by yourself.

When you learn about early childhood development a huge part of social emotional wellness is self care. Knowing how to care for yourself by doing daily task, hygiene and choosing healthy emotional options.

Allowing a healthy relationship is a healthy emotional option. When you allow others to treat you poorly the reason could be that you feel that’s the best for you. Anytime you are choosing to settle with something damaging, you have not loved you enough. Think about it when you have that favorite toy as a child or that favorite piece of clothing, you are careful with it. You try your best to keep it clean, you are selective about who you allow to touch or wear it, that’s because you found value in it so you DO things to express that love.

Find value in yourself and learn to love you, by doing things to care for you. It’s okay to do what’s best for you, start to reflect and figure out what you truly enjoy. Take the time to do those things and allow yourself to be taken care of. Do not settle for damaging relationships, friendships, or circumstances. Do something to please you!

One of my business instructors would always say “Do You Boo” -Marlena.

Your Purpose

Be You • Be True • Be Royal

Who are you?

Dear Royal,

Know whose you are! It doesn’t take a celebrity that resembles you to consider yourself to be something. It doesn’t take a woman with a body like yours in a music video for you to feel more attractive. It doesn’t take a song lyric to say that you are great, for you to feel valued. It doesn’t take another person to speak it for you to know that you are beautiful! Know whose you are!

You are unique like no other, all great masterpieces are one of a kind. There is a moment in time when you are going to be true to yourself and no longer require the validation of society. Others won’t have to say something you possess is great for you to feel it is actually worth something.
Don’t buy your makeup a shade lighter because they glorify “lighter skin”.
Don’t overdue the bleach in your hair because they say blonde is appealing and red is not.
Don’t desire the enhanced body features because bigger boobs get more attention and a larger butt gets more likes.
Don’t hide your smile because you were teased as a child for your gap.

Embrace the real you! Too many of us hide behind the Hollywood image, in reality we are humans with flaws, it’s time to be free.
Loving who you are starts with a renewed mind of what is acceptable, what is beautiful and what a woman should be. Take a journey and redefine yourself, detox your mind and embrace YOU. We are all created different, embracing diversity in women.

               Be You • Be True • Be Royal


Dear Royal,

This blog was created to encourage uniqueness and embrace diverse qualities. I have many thoughts and many things I often want to say, to help you become a more authentic individual. I often have too much to say or I can’t figure out how to get this message to you, hopefully this method is effective. Whether you know yourself or are finding yourself, I want to encourage you.

Many of us think we are alone in our insecurities, our doubts, our fears and our desire to be someone we are not. I want you to understand that I care, I hear you, and I see you’re screaming on the inside. I desire to help you discover that the answer is and always has been within you. You may not believe it is there but the reality is, the wrong tools have been being used to dig it out. I know this because I too have been a victim and some days need to renew and cleanse my mind of the thoughts that I am not worthy. I challenge you to focus, let go of fear and have faith. Start this process with you in mind, think about what you prefer, what makes you happy, and what is influenced by others. Follow me as I write letters to help discover you!

Be You • Be True • Be Royal